In my work and studies, I have learned that very young children can sometimes present with autism-like characteristics. However, just because a newborn or baby does not make faces or respond to their name does not automatically mean they are Autistic or neurodivergent.

While “typical” milestones are often celebrated in society, children develop at different paces for many different reasons. Being a little behind in one area does not necessarily point to a long-term developmental difference.

If you are feeling concerned, the strategies below are designed to be inclusive. They can support a love of learning and social engagement for many young children, not only those who may be Autistic or neurodivergent.

Build Connection Through Simple, Shared Play

Creating a strong relationship with your baby or young child starts with meeting them at their level.

Try getting down on the floor with them and engaging in short, simple, playful interactions. Keep playtime relaxed and low-pressure.

Some children, including many Autistic children, enjoy observing the world more than actively talking or engaging. Taking a slow walk through a garden or park and gently narrating what you see—trees, flowers, birds, or clouds—using simple, calm language can be a meaningful way to connect and build shared attention.

Try Short, Play-Based Social Experiences

For some children, especially those who become tired or overwhelmed easily, long days in care settings can feel like a lot.

Playgroups can offer a gentler introduction to social experiences. They are often shorter in length and allow children to explore social interaction while still having the comfort of their primary caregiver nearby.

An hour to two hours of play-based activity can sometimes feel more manageable than a full day in care. And it is always okay to leave early if your child has had enough.

Another benefit of playgroups is that many are free or low-cost, making them an accessible option for families who want to explore social opportunities without a big commitment.

Talk to Someone You Trust About Your Concerns

If you are worried about your child’s development—whether they are a newborn, a baby, or a young toddler—it can help to share those concerns with someone you trust.

That might start with a friend, another parent, or someone at your playgroup. Sometimes, simply talking things through can provide reassurance or clarity.

If concerns continue, it may be helpful to speak with a professional such as a doctor, occupational therapist, psychologist, or early childhood educator. These professionals are trained in child development and, where appropriate, can offer assessments, guidance, and advice about next steps.

Seeking support does not mean something is “wrong.” It means you are being attentive, proactive, and caring about your child’s growth and wellbeing.

A Gentle Reminder

Every child’s developmental journey is different. Growth does not always follow a straight line, and progress can look different from one child to the next.

Creating safe, nurturing, and low-pressure opportunities for connection and play can support learning, confidence, and social engagement in ways that feel natural rather than forced.

Further Reading

If you would like to explore more, these resources may be helpful:

What strategies have you found helpful in supporting your child’s social development?

By Suzanna Poredos
The A List Socialite